THE 3-3-3 RULE

Adopting a dog is just like having a new member of the family - it’s incredible, and it’s challenging. To help you and your new dog adjust to each other and set you up for a fulfilling lifelong bond, let’s talk about the 3-3-3 rule. 

The 3-3-3 rule, also known as the “dog honeymoon period,” is a guideline for spending the first three days, three weeks, and three months with your new dog. 

The First 3 Days

To start - let’s chat about those first 3 days. For your dog, coming to your home is like being teleported into a completely new place with new smells and people. It is similar to a baby falling asleep in the car, and when they wake up in a new place, they’re completely overwhelmed. 

The shock and stress will cause every dog to react differently. Some may shut down and hide in their crate, while others will want to inspect every inch of your house. They might have accidents or push boundaries to see what they can get away with. Many dogs have trouble eating or potty training.

It is important to empathize with your dog and create a safe environment for them. This could look like limiting interaction and providing them a comfortable space to chill. This is also a great time to start introducing a routine - like feeding or bathroom time. Consistency and patience are key to helping your dog feel at home.

The First 3 Weeks

With time comes trust and comfort. Your dog may start to let their guard down and settle into their new home and routine. They might still feel uncomfortable and unsure if this is their forever home, so maintain patience and consistency. They also may still have trouble eating and potty training.

This is a great time to solidify their routine and start (slowly) teaching them new things. You could incorporate basic training, socialization, and exploration. Ensure consistent feedback and space for them to show their true personality.

The First 3 Months

Now that your dog feels at home in their new home, you can add more to their routine and environment. At this point, their appetite should be healthy, their body language relaxed, and their bathroom usage consistent.

You could start advanced training or explore new places. It’s also essential to learn your dog’s preferences (for food, treats, toys, activities, etc.) to strengthen your bond and ensure you provide the best care for them.

Rescue Dogs 

Adopting a rescue dog adds another layer of complexity. It is almost impossible to know everywhere your rescue dog has been - or the type of people they’ve interacted with. They might have been from a puppy mill stayed in a noisy shelter for a long time, or been abused and abandoned by their past families. 

Don’t be offended if your dog needs more me-time or seems distrustful of you. Allow them to come to you and new experiences at their own pace. You don’t know what different items, situations, or people might remind your dog of. Be patient, and don’t hesitate to contact your community if you need support.

You can do this!

Remember that the 3-3-3 rule is a guideline. Every dog is different, so the timeline will look different. The 3-3-3 rule helps us remember to have empathy and patience as we get to know our new dog. These stages and reactions are normal.

Building a trusting relationship with any dog takes time. It won’t always be easy, and it is so worthwhile to welcome a dog into your life.